How to Help Kids Navigate Holiday Events Without Overwhelm
The holiday season can be full of joy—but for many children, it can also feel loud, busy, and overwhelming. New environments, large gatherings, and changes to routine can leave kids feeling anxious or emotionally dysregulated. With a little preparation and flexibility, parents can help children feel safer, calmer, and more confident during holiday events.
Prepare Them Ahead of Time
Talk to your kids about what to expect at the event in simple, age-appropriate ways. Let them know who will be there, what activities might take place, and how long the event will last. Setting clear expectations ahead of time can reduce anxiety and help children feel more secure.
Stick to Familiar Routines When Possible
While holiday events often disrupt normal schedules, keeping some consistency with meals, nap times, and bedtime routines can help children feel more regulated and grounded. A well-rested and well-fed child is better equipped to handle excitement and change.
Offer a Sense of Control
Give your child small choices, such as what they want to wear or which activities they’d like to participate in. Having some autonomy helps kids feel more in control and less emotionally overwhelmed, especially in busy or unfamiliar environments.
Bring Comfort Items
Pack a favorite toy, blanket, or other familiar item that brings comfort. These simple items can provide a sense of safety and reassurance when children are away from home or surrounded by new people.
Plan for Breaks
Holiday gatherings can be overstimulating, especially for children who are sensitive to noise, crowds, or changes in routine. Identify a quiet space where your child can take a break if needed, and encourage them to let you know when things start to feel like too much.
Teach Social Skills in Advance
Role-play greetings, polite interactions, and how to respond to common holiday questions. Practicing these skills ahead of time can boost your child’s confidence and reduce stress in social situations.
Be Patient and Flexible
Children may not always behave as expected—especially when they’re tired, overstimulated, or out of their usual routine. Staying calm and flexible helps your child feel supported and understood, even during challenging moments.
Focus on the Joy of Togetherness
Remind yourself and your child that the holidays are about connection, not perfection. Emphasizing shared moments, laughter, and time together can ease pressure and help everyone enjoy the season more fully.
By preparing in advance, staying flexible, and prioritizing your child’s emotional needs, you can help holiday events feel more manageable and meaningful for everyone.
If holiday gatherings consistently feel hard for your child, you’re not doing anything wrong. Some children simply need extra support navigating change, stimulation, and big emotions. With the right tools—and plenty of grace—children can learn to feel safer and more confident during these moments.
Need Extra Support?
Child counseling can be especially helpful for children who struggle with anxiety, emotional regulation, or behavioral challenges during the holidays and other high-stress seasons. Support can help both children and parents feel more confident and connected.
Written by Rebecca Muyres, LPC, CPCS, RPT-S, CCTP, CATP